Wednesday, August 23, 2017

Yo-yo's and super bouncy balls

Welllllllll, Remember as a kid you would try to master the art of the yo-yo, or try to guess where the super bouncy balls would go when you threw them?

Meanwhile over on the other side of the yard you saw people playing Hackysack and never really understood why?

As you get older those memories fade and so does that innocent curiosity.  You become more calculated, your risks become less risky and your faith in others is less a matter of faith but more a matter of proof. 

I've found myself thinking back to my younger days a lot lately, there are a number of possible reasons. One of them could be that I yearn for a world where people just allow others to be.  Be happy, be alone, be moody, be in control of their own lives. Who are we to stop anyone from being, unless that state of being is hurting someone or infringing on rights. 

Everyone has an opinion and feels that that opinion is to be shared. We never think of how our opinion may be received, we just think it's our entitled thought and we are compelled to share it. We become critics of others lives, sometimes from armchairs, other times from right beside them. It's almost like we forget that people are genuinely doing what feels right for them. No one should get to stop that, so then, why is it people try so hard to steer others along the garden path.  Maybe that's not their garden path to walk? Maybe they're allergic and don't have any antihistamine.... who knows, so, do yourself a favour and stop trying to run other people's lives and just let them do what they do, and you do the same. The world will be a more beautiful place if we all just did what felt natural and right. 

Speaking of doing what feels natural and right, let's talk about someone that has the propensity to make you feel like a yo-yo. The typical folk out there that feels that when they need their validation they pull you in, when they don't need it they push you back out. The great part about these people is that they're not even aware they do it, but you are.... and it kind of hurts you to know that your just a filler. Why are you letting it happen? I'll tell you why.

We allow people to treat us badly because truly in our mind we believe that life is full of ups and downs and if we get some attention and validation from this person, it's an up and when we don't get that validation, it's a down. So the ups help us get through the downs. Here's a silly question..... what happens if they aren't there to give you the up at all? Would you still feel the down?  Why are we enabling this behaviour, it only hurts us.  We sit waiting for them to come around and sprinkle us with some pixie dust and hope everything will be perfect.  Fast forward two days, and we wonder where they are and why they're not available.  We are effectively their yo-yo. Cut the string and move on.  

The odd part about the other end of the string is that what's there is one of those bounce balls. No one can predict what's going to happen next, and we might be in the trajectory and could get hurt with the bouncing all over the place. Why not exit stage left and call it a day. Let the super bouncy ball whip around in a room that's got nothing in it except an abandoned yo-yo in the middle of the floor. 


We are all here for a finite amount of time. Spend it in ways that make you feel great. Don't invest more in people than they can return. There is such a thing as bad people stocks and you can lose a lot of time and energy with the wrong ones.